Use The “Search Box”

Hello Peers.

When I don’t put up a new, daily post, don’t forget to type in key words in the search box. Almost any topic is already posted. I continue to update with new posts on these subjects, offering new information or peer experience. The more we information we gather, the more tools we can add to our wellness toolkits. The better integrated we feel, the more positive moments we can find and acknowledge.



More Conflict over NEW DEA LAW for Opioid Pain Management

I found this on the Internet today and thought it was very thought-provoking. The comments below are even more thought-provoking. I invite you to read through and see how you feel about this.



My only advice — Two Rooms Plus Utilities

I’ve read a couple of posts lately, giving “advice” on things not to say to the chronically ill. Personally, anyone who wants, can say whatever enters their mind to me, but they had best be prepared for an answer, weighted with just as much stupidity, wit or candor as their comment, advise or question. In […]

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Begining to Retrain your Thoughts from Negative to Positive

Important enough to read again.
Lucinda XX


Hello Peers,

I stated in my post, about our need to know what items to bring with us in situations that arise unexpectedly, that I would add links above it. I was able to find a good link for basic mediation learning. Emotional retraining, not so simple. Most links I found were actually advertisements for their various learning courses; sneaky.  I understand the basics of emotions and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, since there are no reliable links to add for your own research, I am going to post a simple process I have used with both myself and with others.

The first thing our brain does is  latch onto a thought. Negative thoughts might be thoughts such as, “I am a failure”, “I never accomplish anything”, “I can’t handle this situation”, “I am just going to give up” or worse. In using these specific examples I am trying to recreate thoughts I have had, and have, because my daily…

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Important CDC Guidelines Update for Opioid Use in Chronic Pain

Here is a link that I spent an hour discussing with my primary care physician last month. I have posted in this blog before about self-advocating, creating relationships with your physician and taking steps to help you and your doctor to feel comfortable, open, and honest in obtaining prescription medication help. This is only a “guideline”, however it is and will have new effects on our treatment. Please read, please be partners with your doctor(s), and if you believe you may be abusing your pain treatment, seek help.

As a MSW, I understand the addiction process. There are many factors that need to be taken into account by you and your doctor. Genetics, social factors, and current mental health state. Please be forthcoming with any issues. CBT is the “new” therapy described as being able to address all issues, I believe this can be misleading. There are new studies out that CBT can actually be a short-term fix. If you need therapy, find what works best for you, but, find it. Many peers can find relief in other medications and in lifestyle changes. Others, need a balance. Still others don’t tolerate the SSRI’s or SNRI’s. Remember that when first diagnosed we go through the stages of grief. I believe this is the most important point at which we need assistance from a professional or group to get to the other side and live well with chronic pain. 

Be safe, be as healthy as you can, allow yourself to get help. XXX

Chronic Pain and Eating Nutrious Meals

When we are going through a lot of pain, especially when it’s flaring up, eating well can feel like just another a new problem added to your life. Those hours, days, or weeks when moving is a struggle, opening up a can or ordering a pizza can feel like  it’s your only option, but it’s the not, and, it’s the worst option. We  are already dealing with constant pain, trying to keep up with chores, work, kids, friends, family, and exercise, meditation, the list keeps going. Eating can get pushed way down the ladder in our daily habit of trying to live well. This is the opposite of what we “should” have prioritized. Living with a chronic condition makes our bodies fuels very important. Healthy eating is a piece of our living well skill set we don’t often discuss; today, it is being highlighted in my blog.

When I first began living with Fibromyalgia, I often had dinner that was ordered from local restaurants. My husband was too exhausted after working to cook a meal for me and our daughter, so, we ordered a lot of Thai, Vietnamese, and Mexican food during the first few years. At least we ate and not to badly, but too great either. It took me several years to get back into a routine of mostly organic meat and greens made fresh at home. It took me even longer to figure out how to keep up with mealtime and what style of eating suited me best. My style and planning isn’t going to work for all the Peers out there, but maybe it will help with starting their own style.

The first eating well style I tried was making double portions for dinners, leaving me with at least the meat pre-cooked for the next day’s dinner; throw together a salad or blanched broccoli with a piece of bread and there is a healthy meal completed in 10 minutes. I will still often cook this double meat option, however, I use to try doubling or tripling all the pieces by creating a Tupperware salad or double portion rice, etc. That method just wasted a lot of food! I also tried doing the “entire meal preparation on weekends” and freezing it for eating during the week. That was completely exhausting and I had to rely on not having a flare up of pain on the weekends. That was definitely out of touch of with reality for me (denial). The one and only large meal prepping that works well for me is occasional crock potting.

Fast forward seventeen years and I have found my healthy eating plan. Organic as much as money allows is very important to me. Simple meals. For dinner a small piece of chicken breast, mixed rice or other carb (no more than half a cup), and a large serving of steamed veggies or fruit(s). More importantly, I graze. I eat a small item every three hours. A good example of this is the following; a breakfast bar, a fruit, almond milk, non-fat yogurt smoothie with protein powder, a piece of bread with a small amount of cheese and then dinner. No desert. I also learned that I have to cook by 6pm or my energy is depleted. Reheating a healthy meal is better than not having one to eat. Grazing keeps my body fueled with healthy proteins, low glucose options, low fat, and my bodies sugar levels stay stable. It’s simple and mostly easy, I just reach into the pantry or refrigerator for my “meal”.

The other part of eating when living with chronic pain that is not discussed in most blogs, is how medications tend to do to our digestive system and bathroom habits. This is a subject that we don’t want to discuss and too often is not brought up by our doctors. Many of the medications have constipating effects. I make sure to drink a lot of different fluids that contain antioxidants (do a Google search on “benefits of antioxidants”). Another great side benefit of antioxidants is that they help with inflammation, so I do recommend this addition to any Peers diet! I also take an over the counter softener daily; regular bathroom habits are not the same for everyone, but having a habit, that is necessary for our health. This may be to much information for some who read my blog, but I would rather share health than be another silent voice about any aspect of living well, healthy and positive.

Be well, positive, and seize your moments!