I Can be Distressed or I Can Practice Acceptance

My partner and our daughter (27 years old) left  yesterday to go to Disneyland. They haven’t been for more than 10 years and this is kind of the trip of a lifetime for them to share as adults. They both really enjoy Disneyland, while I don’t as going on rides is just too stressful and causes too much pain for me.  I stayed behind to take care of our daughter’s cats and my dog. I had to rent a car in order to do this. It’s a wonderful car with leather seats, electronic starter ignition, and well I was thinking that I might take a small road trip over to the beach. Instead this week is going to be filled with more rain. We all know what weather changes bring, pain.

I could feel very upset about this development. And I do feel a little bit sad, I also feel a little upset about renting a car and not using it.  This is a perfect time to try and practice what I’ve learned in the past; in the winter I have more pain and there’s no point in getting upset about it. That doesn’t mean I don’t get upset , I do, but dwelling on that feeling is not helpful when you’re in so much pain you can’t get out of bed. So while they’re in Disneyland my Rent-A-Car will sit outside and look beautiful and I will remain cozy with blankets and the cats and dog inside watching marathon episodes of who knows what on cable TV. It’s a perfect time to begin to process acceptance as winter is here and it will only get more brutal.

I’m sure there’s other peers of mine out there practicing the same thing today, so let’s all practice together.

PS, I used text to talk for this blog so forgive any errors. Have a great week and I’ll get back to you later, dear blog.







Rain and Cold; How to Stay Positive


It’s been pouring for five days straight. And, the cold, yuck. Lets just put it out there; my body hates it. My mind goes on “dull”. Any plans I had go right under the covers. I know if I go out, I will pay a price in my pain levels; it’s bad enough inside. My plans inside? They fly under the bed and tend to stay there. Then, I get that depressed feeling.

Today is the fifth day. Today, I am so bored that I have found several small things to take care inside the house. I am going outside to get groceries and dog food. I also need to walk my dog. It’s raining. It’s cold. But there is a limit to how much of this chronic pain, the weather controlling my increased pain, and the sadness of sitting and staring at Netflix or reading a book, that I can handle. My shoulder muscles are “out”; similar to frozen shoulder. My head aches. My neck aches, heck even my bad knee is killing me. All in all, going out is a known negative. But, I am doing it anyway.

I have help, so that is a bonus in grabbing items and having my helper drive. I also know that tomorrow that I have a very important medical appointment. There are times when the dice rolls and I just have to suck it up. This is one of those days. It is also one of those days when I know that just by “doing something, anything”, I will feel more positive than sitting and staring.  I can’t always push myself. But, I sure remember to try.

(By the way, I recommend the internet site, Happify. I also recommend the book above in the diagram)